“He who findeth a wife, findeth a good thing.” Proverbs 18:22
Many women are frustrated at their single status. But in my humble opinion, most are approaching marriage wrong. The book of Proverbs clearly says “He who FINDETH a wife…” That means that it is not up to the woman to locate a husband. Thus the man must do the searching and procuring.
And when we do go looking and find, what we do land is usually not worthy of us. We are cautioned not to throw our pearls before swine for a reason. This pattern is repeated over and over-searching and finding with terrible results.
A godly man who is actively pursuing a wife is guided by the Lord. A woman looking for a husband is often guided by loneliness, fear, a biological time clock, financial stability or all of the above. You can end up with unnecessary heartache when you are unequally yoked-trust me on this one.
In the meanwhile, ladies, are you worth finding? Are you a Proverbs 31 woman? If the answer is no, it would be wise of you to redeem the time and develop yourself in order to be a worthy wife. Every woman with the title is qualified or deserving. Marriage is a holy institution of God and should be approached with reverence.
Our Father has a future and a hope for us all. If He put it in your heart to be a wife, it will happen. He already knows whose rib you were fashioned from. He knows whose “helpmate”He designed you to be.
Remember, there is beauty in every stage of life, even singlehood. You can be used by God like no other time before. Embrace the gift. And before you know it, you will be found by your God ordained mate.